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Are You Spending Time on Promising Leads or Dead Ones?

If you’re in the service business, then you live and breathe the saying: TIME IS MONEY.

And if you don’t, you should.

I run a service based company too and it wasn’t long before I realized that my time is everything. It’s up to me, and only me, to value my time and do everything I can to maximize it.

So…

I’m constantly trying to do things that save time. I’m on the lookout for process inefficiencies. I’m alllllll about convenience. I’m a productivity whore. I’m continually revisiting and changing my approach to make sure that when I give something or someone my time, it’s worth it.

Recently I travelled down a little road that had me reevaluating new leads. Contrary to what first comes to mind, a new lead isn’t always rainbows and sunshine and MONEY. Sometimes they’re flaky, unorganized, confused, tire-kicking wastes of time!

I wrote a guest blog post all about it over at The Work at Home Woman. If you want to know how to spend time on promising leads, not dead ones visit http://www.theworkathomewoman.com/promising-leads/ and tell me what you think. And if you believe it’s worthy (which I pray you do), share the crap out of it so all of us service-slaves can spend more time where it counts.

 

Inspirational Quotes Every Working Mom Should Read on a Monday

Here’s your Monday Mama Motivator.

Need a little help kicking your ass into gear today? There’s nothing like a solid quote that hits home and knocks you out of your Monday funk.

Even better, here are a bunch of inspirational quotes that I’ve compiled just for super amazing working moms like you (but who need a little reminder every now and then). Let’s get your feet off the ground for work, business, home, baby and everything else that Monday brings!

  1. Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. – OPRAH WINFREY
  1. The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer. – NOLAN BUSHNELL
  1. When you’re in the thick of raising your kids by yourself, you tend to keep a running list of everything you think you’re doing wrong. I recommend taking a lot of family pictures as evidence to the contrary. – CONNIE SCHULTZ
  1. I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game’s winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that’s why I succeed. – MICHAEL JORDAN
  1. Cry if you need to. – WHITNEY SHAFFER
  1. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. – HENRY FORD
  1. Nothing will work unless you do. – MAYA ANGELOU
  1. There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one. – JILL CHURCHILL
  1. The phrase ‘working mother’ is redundant. – JANE SELLMAN 
  1. Motherhood is the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary – it’s an act of infinite optimism. – GILDA RADNER
  1. Your house will be messy but it’s all worth it. – SARAH RAY
  1. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get, but if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen. – CONAN O’BRIEN
  1. If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. – ABIGAIL VAN BUREN
  1. Good things happen when you go for it! – ALAN WEBB
  1. You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you. – MAYA ANGELOU 

So, I don’t have any “quotes” of my own, but I do have a few words to share that’ll hopefully elevate your mood, spark that energy inside you and keep you goin’ all day long.

  1. Don’t think about it, just do it. If you leave yourself too much time to complain, to wallow in the difficulty, to remember how tired you are, well then even if you do get around to doing what you need to do, you’ll be in a horrid mood to do it.
  2. Remember, it could always be worse.
  3. Focus on the positives in your life. All the amazing gifts you have. See the everyday teeny-tiny miracles.
  4. Know that you’ll feel great when it’s done and you gave it your all.
  5. Tell yourself you’re amazing.
  6. Tell your kids they’re amazing.
  7. Breathe.
  8. Smile.
  9. Laugh. LOTS.
  10. Notice the beauty all around you. Trust me, it’s there – we’re just usually too busy to recognize it.

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Got a few Monday inspirational words to share?

Do tell!

I Feel Guilty When I’m Not Working

Think about this statement for a minute. Take as long as you need to come to the realization that this is truly f*cked up.

I think this is an “illness” that comes part and parcel with being an entrepreneur. Maybe it also has something to do with our North American, work-obsessed, money-hungry mentality.

It’s no secret that…

  • We thrive on work.
  • We push ourselves to (unhealthy) limits.
  • We think that the only way to succeed – to really “make it” – is to burn out.
  • We feel guilty when we’re not working!

Being Employed is Different from Running Your Own Show

Entrepreneurs have it a little different from those who are employed. In most positions of employment, people have a set schedule they’re committed to – 9 to 5, 8 to 4, shift work… Whatever that schedule is, employees have the opportunity, and the ability, to disengage. To unplug. To decompress.

But as entrepreneurs we literally live and breathe our work. Even when we’re not working, we’re working. Particularly those of us who work from home may find it difficult to separate work from personal life. Because it’s all connected and intertwined. Our office is just steps away from where we cook meals, watch movies and go to sleep at night. Part of us associates everything we do at work with everything we do at home.

Why I Feel Guilty When I’m Not Working

I think there are a few reasons for this.

  1. No one’s given me a mat leave. Although this doesn’t mean I don’t deserve one, it certainly feels as though I’m not entitled. I chose my self-employed, entrepreneurial career path and with that comes an obligation to work even when most people don’t have to.
  2. My mind is always coming up with new ideas. Whether I’m breastfeeding, about to go to sleep at night, pedalling on the bike at the gym or waking from a midday slumber, I’m constantly thinking, brainstorming and planning. About how I can grow my businesses. About how I can generate more income. About how I can better serve my clients. It doesn’t end. So how can I expect to feel at peace when I’m not doing something to put my ideas into motion?
  3. I’m committed to my business. I want my business to succeed. The thought of being thrown back into the corporate world scares the living bejesus out of me! And the only way for me to ensure that my business can and will continue to thrive is to work at it.
  4. I always want to progress forward. I think the hardest part about partially letting go of the businesses I’ve worked so hard to build is that it feels like a step back. Before my little guy came along, every year I earned more than the year before. Business was thriving and companies were growing. Now, my pay cut feels like a stab in the back.

Why It’s Bullsh*t

baby-play-areaThe reasons for my guilt sound pretty sensible don’t they? While I could spend hours justifying this, and making a damn good case for myself, my reasoning fails to take one very important concept into account: the profound significance of raising a child.

Getting pregnant, giving birth to a healthy baby and growing a family is incredible. It’s priceless. It’s a gift. It’s so special that there are no words to describe it. (Only fellow mothers will truly understand.) It dawned on me recently, as I thoroughly enjoyed a play session with my little prince, that this – my motherly work – trumps all else.

And you know what? It pays better in the long run.

How to Nip Your Pesky (and Unwarranted) Guilt in the Butt!

  1. Your guilt stems from a lifelong habit. Like any other, it takes time to break.
  2. You feel guilty because you’re motivated, hardworking and dedicated. This is a good thing.
  3. Give yourself time to refocus and readjust.
  4. You have your whole life to work.
  5. Your baby will only be a baby once.
  6. Soon, your child won’t need you as much – and you’ll hate it and miss the days when they did.
  7. The mom job has legacy.
  8. Not working – or working less – is only temporary if that’s what you want.
  9. When you’re old, it won’t be the times when you were working that you’ll treasure the most.
  10. Remember that being a good mom is the most important job in the world. So don’t slack!