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Google Obsessed: A Desirable Trait for New Moms and Entrepreneurs

Ah, Google.

If only I had a record of everything I’ve ever typed into that all-too-familiar text bar. From emerging problems to changing life phases to bidding curiosities, Google knows a hell of a lot about me!

I’ve discovered that especially when it comes to new mommyhood, most people I talk to tell me that the absolute worst thing I can do is Google my questions.

I disagree strongly.

Googling Means You Have DRIVE

on-the-roadIn this day and age, if you’re lost, if you don’t have the answers, if you don’t know how to do something, if you want to know something … there’s no excuse for not using what we all have at our disposal!

Picture the world 50 years ago.

When our parents and grandparents had questions, curiosities, problems – there was only one place to go: the library. They’d have to look things up in databases, references and encyclopedias. Wow. Imagine telling today’s impatient, demanding, go-getter-type Millennials that in order to get an answer to one of their questions they’d have to drive (or walk, or take public transit) to the nearest library and look it up using a paper, alphabetical filing system?

Ha! They’d laugh in your face.

And when we think of it this way, we must take advantage of what we have. It takes seconds to Google something. But as simple and convenient as it is, if you do it, it shows you have DRIVE. You want the answer to that question. You need to find out how to do something. You crave access to a world of information at your fingertips.

And that’s a very good thing.

Googling Means You’re RESOURCEFUL

hand-fistAt one of my regular waxing appointments a couple of months ago, I was spilling the beans to my esthetician about my breastfeeding woes. I told her about my lactation consultant. About my little guy’s tongue tie, lip tie and tight jaw. About our visits to the breastfeeding clinic and the osteopath. About it all.

You know what she said?

Good for you for being so resourceful. And I thought to myself, huh. I hadn’t realized that’s what I was doing. When it came to my breastfeeding problems, the only thing going through my mind was, “I am determined to breastfeed my son. I am in excruciating pain. I must fix this and figure it out.”

Where do you think I began the process?


I tapped into the resources at my disposal to find information, to find answers, to find help.

Googling Provides You With INFORMATION

documentsWe can’t make good decisions without good information. Now, granted, everything that pops up in Google’s search results isn’t accurate, valuable and reliable. But it’s information nonetheless. It’s up to you to sift through the clutter, to decide what’s usable and what’s not, and to take everything you come across with a grain of salt.

No one said you have to listen to everything you find through Google. On the contrary. But more information is better than less information. The more informed and educated you are about a particular topic, the better able you’ll be to solve your issues, to figure out the best answers for you and your life, and to put good solutions into action.

Googling Gives You PERSPECTIVE 

eye-glassesSometimes you’ve gotta see what’s out there so you can put any given situation into a little perspective.


“My business is having a dead month.”
Googling tells you that January is, in fact, usually a much slower month in your industry. Now, you stop worrying.

“My six month old doesn’t like to nap.”
Googling tells you that so many other parents have babies who not only don’t like to nap, but sleep only a couple hours at night! Now, instead of feeling annoyed, you feel lucky.

“I need help with my new CRM software system.”
Googling helps you find a website that walks you step-by-step through the exact issues you’re facing. Now, you understand.

“I don’t want to feed my baby rice cereal as a first food.”
Googling tells you that other moms feel the same way and actually feed their babies a host of other foods (arguably better foods) before ever introducing rice cereal. Now, you discover the world of “superfoods” for your baby.

Ahhh. That feels better. Google put my concerns into perspective.

So You’re a Googler … And That’s a Very Good Thing

Especially if you’re a mom.

Or an entrepreneur.

Or both.

Here’s why:

A Googler is a good mom because…

  1. She cares.
  2. She puts in the effort.
  3. She has a thirst to learn.
  4. She finds answers to her questions.
  5. She takes it upon herself to research and gather ideas.
  6. She understands that motherhood is a constantly evolving process.
  7. She’s determined to do what’s best for her child.
  8. She acknowledges the fact that the only way for her to make the best decisions is to make sure she’s well informed.
  9. She’s not afraid to expand her horizons and challenge the norm.
  10. She doesn’t say, “I don’t know” but rather, “Here’s what I know”.

A Googler is a good entrepreneur because…

  1. She’s curious.
  2. She’s driven.
  3. She’s anything but lazy.
  4. She enjoys learning and expanding her knowledge base.
  5. She is fast and efficient.
  6. She remembers that much of what she’s accomplished has been self-taught.
  7. She understands that entrepreneurship is about continuous personal development.
  8. She invests her time in education – in herself.
  9. She acknowledges the fact that her business, her industry, her world is constantly changing.
  10. She doesn’t say, “That’s something I’ve been meaning to do…” but rather, “I’m in the process of completing that task”.


Are you Google obsessed?

Good for you, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

How does it make you a better mom and entrepreneur?

Figuring Out What Baby Wants

It’s just like figuring out what your clients want!

Oh, except that your baby can’t talk, or pay you for your time, or give you pointers, or guide you in any way, shape or form.

So what is a mother to do?

Throw away the books.
STOP yourself from typing into Google (yeah, right).
Smile and nod when people give you advice.
Halt the mad obsession with figuring it all out.


Who Is My Baby and What Does My Baby Want?

For the first three months of Prince Brody’s life, these are the questions I was asking myself – amidst excruciating breastfeeding pain and a wacked-out sleeping schedule. As a new mom, I was quickly thrown into a life I knew NOTHING about!

Call my little guy particular. Call him demanding. Call him fussy. Any word will do. The truth is, he wasn’t – and isn’t – easy to figure out. Not then, not now. I know some moms will claim that within a few weeks they had their babies all figured out. Okay, sure. Maybe. Ask them if they still have those babies figured out at 2 months. 3 months. 4 months.

Our little ones are constantly changing and growing up. What one day brings, the next day doesn’t. And just as soon as we think we’ve cracked the baby code, they change again.

Trying to Figure Out Your Baby is Like Trying to Figure Out Your Most Misfit Client

You know that client who you just never “clicked” with? The one who constantly changed his mind throughout the course of the project? The one who couldn’t explain herself well? The one who, no matter how hard you tried, you simply couldn’t “get”?

Take yourself back to that experience. If you’re anything like me, you eventually said to yourself, “I’m never going to be able to please this client. This is never going to be a smooth working relationship. I’m just not the right person for this job.”

And those statements may just apply to you and your baby!

Think about it…

There will be times when you say to yourself, “I can’t please this guy!”
There will be times when you say to yourself, “This is anything but a smooth relationship.”
But, there most certainly WON’T be times when you say to yourself, “I’m just not the right person for this job.”

Quite the contrary because you’re always the right person for the job. In fact, you’re the only person for the job. Even when it’s hard. Even when it feels impossible. Even when you’re holding on by a thread. There’s no one better. You’re it mama.

Why You Don’t Need to Figure Your Baby Out

Forget about figuring out your baby. You don’t need to. Because you’ve got something way better than some magic equation to solve all your problems – it’s called Motherly Instinct.

Sure, at one time or another, whether we’re consciously trying to figure out our babies or not, as moms we’ll think we’ve done it. We’ve cracked the code! We’ve got the answer! And then the next thing we know, everything is different again. The process starts over. We’ve come around full circle.


Cut it out! Stop trying. Have fun with the fact that your little one is a total mystery. Run with your instincts instead. If you’re trying out something new and it just doesn’t feel quite right, stop. If your little one “usually” does things a certain way but today it’s the total opposite, laugh it off, adjust, roll with the punches. Don’t get your panties in a knot! Get used to it. Things are inevitably going to change a million times over and you’ve got a looooong time to go, Mama.

There’s nothing, and I mean NOTHING, like a mother’s instinct. But you’ve gotta use it.

Take a Lesson from Your Motherly Instinct and Get a Little Business Instinct

I think most of us take our instincts for granted. Or, if you’re anything like me, you have great instincts but you don’t listen when they come a knockin’!

Change that. In every part of your world. You’ll be happy you did.

Sleep training just not feeling like the right answer for your baby? Put an end to it.
Does that new lead sound like an absolute nightmare? Don’t move forward.
Think your little one is sick? Make a move.
Feel like now is the time to bring a new product to market? Do it.

Instinct is a powerful thing.

So forget about figuring it out.

Follow your gut instead.

My Baby Makes Me More Efficient

Whether something is decided to be a benefit or a disadvantage is relative. What we think to be positive or negative has everything to do with our outlook, our point of view…our perspective. One person’s drawback is another person’s triumph. What one person perceives to be a problem, another person thinks is their greatest advantage.

The Right Mindset Will Get You Everywhere

A number of years back, after university, before I became self-employed and when I felt generally lost in life, I began to read Eckhart Tolle books, I created a dream board and I familiarized myself with the law of attraction. Through these personal teachings, I grew self aware of the debilitating capacity of my own thoughts and understood that my unhappiness was, simply put, MY FAULT.

It was an empowering realization.


Because this meant that I could control my state of mind. That I could choose to see the good in every situation. That even though I knew I wanted to make big changes in my life, that my happiness wasn’t the byproduct of my surroundings.

It was me.

“My Baby Takes Up All My Time!”

The first words that come to mind for a suitable response are…

No shit!

Like I said before, raising a baby is a FULL TIME JOB. Not part time, not contract…FULL time. For new moms like me, it’s certainly an adjustment and I’ve learned what it feels like to be robbed of my personal time.

Feel like writing a blog post? (ahem, hem) Better postpone that inspiration for the next time your baby decides to take a nap.

Dying to go to the gym? That’ll need to be timed impeccably around feedings, naps and babysitters.

BUT…I’m Now a Much More Efficient Person

The fact that the amount of time I have in a day to complete my to-do list has been cut by 75% is actually a huge benefit. You see, I now have less time to do more. And so I’ve become highly efficient at everything I do.

Let me give you a few examples:

  1. I make to-do lists in order of priority. Thought you were forgetful during pregnancy? Just wait. But these lists (thank goodness for Evernote) don’t only help me remember what I need to do, but they also serve a second, very important, function: The moment my personal time kicks in, I’m ready to maximize it.
  2. When my little prince goes down for a nap, I move like a bat out of hell! As I’m bouncing, dancing, swinging and cajoling my son to sleep, I’m thinking about what I’m going to do when it’s lights out.
  3. Every time I get a few minutes throughout the day, I break a sweat knocking items off my list. You’d be surprised how much you can accomplish in 10 minutes when you have no idea when the next 10 is coming.
  4. I’ve become a GREAT multi-tasker. My little guy has officially entered the phase where he loves to see and explore the world around him. So, I’ll often kill two birds with one stone carrying him around the house and doing the odd (one-handed) job here and there. Everybody wins!
  5. I’ve become an even better uni-tasker. When I had all the time in the world to get things done, it wouldn’t really matter how long it took me, or how I did it, or whether or not I got distracted while doing it. Now, I’ve learned that in many scenarios, being a uni-tasker is far better than being a multi-tasker. Sit down, concentrate and get ’er done. Then move on to the next task.
  6. When I work, I’m more focused. Knowing very well that I have a limited amount of time has worked wonders in my business life. When the prince is fed, happy and sleeping, it’s my time to be productive. So I bear down and get to it. No messing around. And it feels great!

Adaptation is Key

evernoteYou’ve got free reigns to sit there and complain about the fact that your new baby leaves you with little to no time for yourself. Or, you can chalk it up to an albeit different interpretation but one that actually has great benefit.

While I’ll admit that at first it certainly didn’t feel like a benefit, after a couple months whizzed by, I began to notice that my efficiency is sky high!

Fellow new mothers, I swear, my baby makes me more efficient!

What about you? Has your baby given you a new superpower? Do tell.

Life’s Ultimate Transition to New Mom

Going from a kid-less, entrepreneurial, social fiend to a seldom working, homebody mom is no seamless adjustment.

Awesome? Yeah.
Easy? No.

Life is characterized by transitions. By accomplishments and milestones that signify change and that make up who we are.

In my 32 years, I’ve transitioned from child to adult, from gymnast to dancer, from student to working professional, from single to married – all with relative ease. My most recent transition from “just me” to “me plus one” (and no, I don’t mean my husband) has been my most challenging and rewarding transition to date.

What I Thought

Ha! Can’t we all relate to this? I can think of several statements I’d start with, “Well, I thought it was going to be like this…”

It’s natural. We’re human. As much as we know we shouldn’t, we make presumptions. We guess, we plan, we imagine and we create conclusions in our minds before an event has even taken place. We think it’ll help us prepare for what’s ahead. But, more often than not, it simply makes us turn around when it’s all said and done and say, “Well, I thought it was going to be like this…But it was actually like this…”

I Had It Allllll Planned Out

During my 38 weeks of pregnancy, I was able to design and plan out my life as a new mom. First, let me tell you that I don’t shy away from challenges and I think I’m capable of pretty much anything. (Doesn’t every mom entrepreneur need this mindset to survive?!) So I figured that within a few weeks – yes weeks – that I’d be a fantastic mom, that I’d be running my business at 50% capacity (at least!) and that I’d be enjoying social outings on a regular (maybe modified outings, but outings nonetheless).

Ha! BIG ha! Joke’s on you, mom.

How It Really Went Down

Let’s put it this way, it’s been 14 weeks and while I do believe that I’m a pretty great mom, my business is at about 20% capacity and a social outing to me these days is a trip to the drugstore. There’s a reason why full time employees get a year’s maternity leave! I mean, seriously, how many hours do I think there are in a day? Truth be told, I spend the bulk of my days breastfeeding, changing, wiping spit-up off sleepers that have only been worn a few mere moments, eating with one hand, peeing with my son sitting on my lap and trying to get a little sleep in half-hour spurts if I’m lucky! Let me paint you a little picture: no exaggeration, right now, the only way I could write this post is by standing with my son in a carrier strapped to the front of me, with my Macbook perched atop the fireplace mantle (which just happens to be the perfect height) and my ten fingers drumming away furiously on my keyboard in an effort to get all my thoughts out before my little prince decides he’s had enough in this position.

mom-carrying-babyAs I listen to my husband’s stories of the new programming code he mastered that day, of how many visitors his website got, of the new client that hired him…I can’t help but feel, well, a little lacking in the intellectual stimulation department. And as I get friend invites to go on Vegas trips and I watch new pics of wild nights out get posted on social media…I can’t help but feel left out.

Life has changed. I’m missing things. I can’t do everything I once did.

But then I remind myself:

If I had a childless life right now, that means I wouldn’t know what it feels like to…

Create another human being.
Become a real family.
Fall asleep with your baby on your chest.
See your baby’s smile for the first time.

I’m not missing out. Life’s most meaningful moments have only just begun.

Just Because I Say it isn’t Easy, Doesn’t Mean it isn’t Rewarding

The most difficult and complex experiences in life are the ones that are most rewarding.

They’re the ones that push you to the limits and force you to dig deeper than you ever have before.

They’re the ones that make you a bigger, better person.

They’re the ones you always remember and the ones you share with others.

They’re the experiences worth having.

A New Outlook

The first three months of my baby’s life have been a huge – astronomical – adjustment. I’m forever changed. As I gaze into my little Brody’s eyes, I’m filled with a feeling I’ve never had before. Of course I feel love, I feel pride, I feel gratitude…but it’s much more than that.

Sure, we can go through life living, working, playing. But if we never choose to have children, what happens when we’re gone? Where does it all go? What’s our purpose? What makes it all worthwhile?

No, no. Not good enough. What I feel as a new mother is something big, something significant. It’s legacy. My son is an extension of me and of who I am. He represents what comes after.

The Takeaway

Here are a few of the lessons I’ve learned over the last three months:

  1. Giving birth is the most painful experience I ever hope to have in my lifetime. It’s also the most incredible…IF you get an epidural.
  2. Husbands give birth too. (Don’t think it’s easy for your partner to watch you in agony knowing he can’t do a single thing to help you.)
  3. When the nurse puts your newborn baby on your chest, instantly nothing else in the world matters. (And that feeling never really fades.)
  4. It’s crazy how you can feel so much love for someone you just met. Now I know what love at first sight really is.
  5. One of the most special days in a person’s lifetime is the day they bring their newborn home from the hospital.
  6. A long, continuous sleep is something I won’t have again for a very, very long time. And I’m okay with that.
  7. If you’re not fortunate enough to get a good latch, breastfeeding pain is a very close second to labour.
  8. Breastfeeding isn’t just how you feed your baby. There’s a whole science behind it.
  9. There are lots of successful entrepreneurial traits that also make you a successful mother.
  10. If you’re determined enough, you really can conquer anything.
  11. This couldn’t be more true: “It takes a village to raise a baby.”
  12. Days pass like hours, hours pass like minutes and minutes pass like seconds.
  13. You can’t work full time and be a fantastic mother.
  14. If you’re too busy worrying about time, money and work you miss all the good stuff.
  15. I constantly feel guilty when I’m not working.
  16. My son has already taught me to dismiss my guilt, to take these precious months in stride and to treasure: Every. Single. Moment.
  17. Sleep is EVERYTHING.
  18. No matter how fit you are, nothing can prepare you for new mother back and neck pain. And nobody gives you fair warning!
  19. You can lose your belly in a week and half.
  20. Finding the perfect time to have sex…when the baby is quiet, when you and your partner are together, when you’re both in the mood and when all the stars align in perfect cosmic balance…is f*cking challenging!
  21. Watching your baby change, grow and evolve every day is better than sex. Uhhh…okay, maybe a tie?
  22. You can’t put a price on a good support network.
  23. Giving birth should also include the growth of a third arm.
  24. It is possible to painstakingly miss someone after just one hour.
  25. All the judgments you ever had about other parents go out the window, because now, you finally get it.

New mom, motherly entrepreneur, business woman and expectant new mother! What are you learning as you make your journey?

Comment, share, vent!

I want to hear all about it.